In professional life, encouragement can seem like a small thing.
It’s not.
The words people hear shape how they show up, especially in challenging times.
Here's an example. Years ago, when I was an actress, I went through a stretch of failed auditions that left me discouraged and questioning whether I should keep going.
Then something unexpected happened.
A talent agent called me after seeing one of my auditions. Even though I didn’t get the role, she wanted to meet with me. When I met her, she spoke with real conviction about what she saw in me and believed I could do.
That conversation changed how I saw myself and my abilities.
I signed with her agency and booked the next three auditions she sent me on. One of them was a national commercial that paid more than I had ever earned before as an actress.
The Power of Encouragement
A sincere word, spoken at the right time, can interrupt self-doubt. It can restore energy, rebuild belief, and help someone keep going when they’re ready to retreat.
We often think performance is mostly about skill, effort, and discipline. Those things matter. But performance is also shaped by emotional climate.
People don’t do their best work when they feel constantly diminished, dismissed, or deflated. They do better work when they feel clear enough to think and supported enough to keep going.
That’s why encouragement isn’t a nice-to-have in leadership. It’s a must-have.
Do You Encourage?
When people leave an interaction with you, do they feel clearer, steadier, and more capable? Or do they leave feeling heavier, tighter, and less sure of themselves?
Discouragement isn’t always harsh or obvious. Sometimes it shows up in subtle ways, such as constant fault-finding, skepticism, and dismissive reactions. When the focus is so much on what is wrong, people lose sight of what’s still possible.
Seeing the downside may sound practical at the moment. But over time, it drains trust, lowers initiative, and makes it harder to sustain better work.
Honesty That Strengthens
At the same time, encouragement doesn’t pretend everything is fine, ignore problems, or avoid honest feedback. Real encouragement tells the truth in a way that helps people stay strong enough to face it.
It says: yes, this is hard, and we need to improve. But it also says: we’re not powerless here, there’s still a way forward, and let’s take the next step.
The Secret Payoff
When you encourage, not only do you influence others, but you also protect your ability to stay constructive. You resist becoming cynical, reactive, or defeated in the face of every setback.
Of course, not everyone accepts encouragement. Some people are so tired, guarded, or invested in their struggle that they can’t hear it or believe it. In that case, encouragement still shapes the atmosphere you create and the kind of person you’re becoming in the process.
One Good Word Can Do More Than You Realize
Today, pay extra attention to the effect your words have.
- Do they add pressure or reduce it?
- Do they create more confusion or more clarity?
- Do they leave people smaller or stronger?
Choose words that help people remember what’s still possible...including the words you say to yourself.
You can do it.
Jo-Aynne
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Jo-Aynne Von Born, Leadership/Executive Coach
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